(Below is a paraphrase of Ephesians 5:22-33. Taken from my book ‘The Gospel Cannot Be Chained‘)
Wives, let the nature of your very self shine, for you are believers, and therefore believe your husbands when they speak words of loving affection over your life, just as you do with the Lord. For your husband is committed to being a strength to you, as he imitates how Christ is the strength of the Church, his body, whom he loves more than his own life. Now just as we, the Church, submit to Christ when he confirms his love for us, so also wives should submit to their husbands and accept their husbands’ praises in everything.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loves his Church and gave himself up for her, declaring her holy, speaking words of life over her regarding her beauty and cleanness; reminding her that she may stand confident of his love as a radiant bride, without stain or wrinkle, or any other blemish; proclaiming she is his beloved, pure and blameless. In the same way, tell your wives how loved they are, how radiant they are and how beautiful they are in your eyes. Remember how the Lord sees you with the eyes of his grace, and do the same with your wife.
Care for your wife as you imitate how Christ cares so abundantly for his church. Scripture declares: “The day will come when a man will leave his parents in order to enter into a new covenant with his wife, and the two, in the eyes of God, will then become one.” My brothers, this is a profound mystery, but this Scripture is talking about Christ and the Church! It is true that in the eyes of God you have been united as ‘one’ with your wife through your covenant marriage. What a profound revelation to realise that even your marriages can be a glorious illustration given to you from above to help you understand your heavenly reality; that, through your union to Jesus, you too have become one with Jesus in the eyes of our Father!
And so as husband and wife, as you live in the light of the loving acceptance you have received from Christ and with that same spirit of love, respect each other as you live together under the loving care of our heavenly Father.
(This was an excerpt from my book ‘The Gospel Cannot Be Chained‘)